“If you walk into a room, 40 percent of the occupants will like you, 40 percent dislike you, and the remaining 20 percent will be indifferent.” While I can’t vouch for the accuracy of this statement–I overheard it at a meeting–I find it noteworthy nonetheless.
How many of us have met people we are instantly attracted to even before they open their mouths? Conversely, there are others we’d like to punch in the face because they have purple hair, the “wrong” color skin, are too old, too young, etc. And before you shake your head yes that you’ve met these people, remember there are just as many across the fence that either love or hate you for a number of silly reasons–reasons you have no control over. Maybe it’s the bizarre mannerisms you use due to a mental illness or maybe it’s just your nose is too big.
Oftentimes, when we get to know someone, he or she may become more than that object of oddity from our first impression and our feelings shift. And this shift may fly into the stratosphere, morph, and come back as something new. That handsome guy may later utter something offensive and become a jerk, or you, in turn, may become the jerk. But given time, that sentiment may change over and over. People are damn complicated, and I guess that adage “Don’t judge a book by its cover” has some value. And I’ll add my own two cents to my own opinion: if you can’t love someone, like him/her; if you can’t like him, respect him; if you can’t respect him, leave him be. We are all struggling to get by. Our tragedies may not be identical but pain is pain. And that also goes for our personal joys and successes. We share so much more in our lives than we do in our differences.